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How toGive a Blowjob

What is a Blowjob? A Blowjob is the slang term for oral sex on a man.
The formal term for a blowjob is fellatio, which translates to “to suck” from Latin.

The basic motions of a “blowjob” are to lick, suck and stimulate your partner’s penis until they orgasm. Stimulation can include using different mouth and tongue motions but can include stimulating the penis using the hands also. The word “blowjob” might have begun as a euphemism for sucking, or it might refer to the ejactulating finish to the orgasm. Obviously the motions are similar for every blowjob but not all blowjobs feel the same and a man can definitely tell the difference or form an opinion of a bad and good blowjob.
Other Slang Words for Blowjobs / Fellatio Include
Slang Words for Blowjobs
Slang Words for Blowjobs
For us to go into detail about how to give the perfect blowjob, we have to understand where those pleasure points are for you to take full advantage!
The Basic Anatomy
The penis is made from spongy tissue called the corpora cavernosa that are surrounded by arteries inside the penis. This tissue then becomes engorged with blood to form an erection. When the erection goes down, the blood is filtered away via the deep dorsal vein.
basic anatomy of the penis
basic anatomy of the penis
Inside the ball sac are a set of testicles, they produce sperm which are directed up and over the bladder, through some glands which add lubricating substances to the sperm and block off the urinary tract to stop urine mixing with the sperm. The sperm are then carried along the ejaculatory tube and out, resulting in an orgasm.
When we take a closer look at the external features of a penis we find that the structure is comprised as follows:
Shaft
The length of spongy tissue inside the penis
Foreskin or Prepuce
A covering of skin that folds in on itself to form a double layer. The outer foreskin layer is the continuation of the skin in the shaft, the inner foreskin layer is mucocutaneous tissue which is found nowhere else on the body.
Glans
The head or tip of the penis, usually very sensitive to different sensations.
Corona
The “crown”, a distinctive ridge on the end of the glans which connects the glans to the shaft of the penis.
Frenulum or Frenum
A thin strip of flesh on the underside of the penis, connects the glans and foreskin to the shaft. (Looks a lot like the strip of flesh underneath the tongue)
Urethral Opening
The end of the urethra and where urea is expelled from the body.
Scrotum
The sac that hangs below the penis and contains the testes. Along the scrotum is a long line that is usually a shade darker than the natural skin tone. This is called the perineal raphe line and is where the skin has fused together to create the scrotum during development (prior to birth) in the womb.
From this we can see where the most sensation would be on the penis. The glans tip is the equivalent to a woman’s clitoris, it is loaded with very sensitive nerve endings that affects your partner the same way it would affect a woman if they were to receive oral sex. The entire shaft is also a great stimulation point as it is has pressure sensing nerve endings as well as a high sensitivity to really maximise the sensation during sex. The foreskin has a major role in aiding masturbation, oral sex and intercourse. The “rolling” technique, that the foreskin does naturally, rubs against the shaft and glans tip during any of the intimate times described above. The scrotum is incredibly sensitive to pressure and sensation due to how delicate the testes are but can be massaged to bring about a nice sensation.

Understanding the Internal Male Reproductive System to Aid your Blowjob Technique

Now we come to the parts we cannot see, we refer you to a very detailed sketch of the internal anatomy which is comprised of the:
Diagram of Male Reproductive System
Urinary bladder1
Symphysis pubis
Urethra
Penis
Corpora Spongiosum
Glans Penis
Prepuce
Ampulla
Anus
Ductus deferens
Scrotum
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  1. Urinary bladder
  2. Symphysis pubis
  3. Ductus deferensA tube connecting the epididymis to the seminal vesicles. It is these tubes that are cut during a vasectomy
  4. Urethra
  5. Corpora CavernosaTwo spongy lengths of tissue running up the length of the shaft that become engorged with blood to cause an erection
  6. Penis
  7. Corpora Spongiosum
  8. Glans Penis
  9. Prepuce
  10. Ampulla
  11. Seminal vesicleProduces a pH 8 basic substance called semen, this lubricates and protects the sperm in the more acidic vaginal environment
  12. Ejaculatory ductTubes that carry the sperm and semen from the seminal vesicles to up and out of the penis
  13. Prostate glandProduces liquids that go to making the semen, this gland squeezes the urethra tube to prevent urine to mix with the semen
  14. Bulbourethral glandProduces the pre-ejaculatory fluid that accumulates before ejaculation
  15. Anus
  16. Ductus deferens
  17. EpididymisWhere the sperm cells go to mature and are stored here until ejaculated
  18. TestisProduces sperm and the hormone Testosterone. Can produce up to 150 million sperm cells every day
  19. Scrotum
From looking at the internal structure, we can see where would be the most sensitive places that can be used to make a good blowjob even better. We know that the scrotum houses the testes (where sperm are created and stored) and that the testes are incredibly delicate and demand gentle care when handled; they also can be carefully stimulated during the blowjob. If we follow the ejactulatory tube to the prostate, we reach another possible sensation point. The prostate is a gland that helps create the fluid that comes out during ejaculation with the sperm; it is usually located by inserting the forefinger and/or the middle finger into the anus and making the “come hither” motion while your partner lies on their back with their legs in the air. This area is incredibly sensitive to pressure and so by massaging this area, incredible sensations can be achieved. If you couple this maneuver with a blowjob, you’re likely to really impress the receiver!

How to Give a Good BJ*

*Note that there is no one size fits all; there are many ways to skin a cat (give fellatio) but there are some guidelines you can follow to get the job done as it were!
Tip 1Don’t think of it as a job, be enthusiastic!
The most important factor between a good blow job and a great blow job is your enthusiasm to give your partner pleasure. It’s the difference between thinking of it as a measly chore to perform in a relationship or thinking of it as an act that will give you pleasure as much as it will your partner. There is absolutely nothing more that turns on someone than an enthusiastic partner who wants to explore pleasure with them.
“It was as if she were dying of thirst and my c*ck were the fountain of everlasting youth.”
Hank Moody
TV character in Californication
Tip 2Use a lubricant/different flavour
When giving a blowjob you are naturally applying a lot of friction on the penis. Your saliva will naturally form but to spice things up for you and/or him, use a flavoured lubricant. This will ease the friction, making the motions glide easier. You can also get a lubricant which gives a tingly feeling which can be really pleasant for both of you and again heighten sensations.
Tip 3Linger
Giving someone a blow job isn’t a time trial, it's a performance and with every performance, the character lingers on each scene to really get across the intense emotions they wish to convey. This is exactly how a blow job differs from being good or great. Lingering or holding the moment on exciting sensations can help to build up the intensity and it really conveys to your partner that you want to give them all this pleasure.
Tip 4Vary Motions
Variation is the spice of life. You can’t have a fulfilling life while doing the same old things again and again, however not many people bring that thought scenario into the bedroom. You can do many maneuvers to enhance a blowjob so vary what you do throughout; include your hands, scrape your nails on his skin, suck hard or lightly, use your tongue with different pressures just to see what it does to your partner, it’s as fun for you as it is for them when you can make them moan!
Tip 5Take an active rest
While going all out during a blow job, you can definitely find yourself in a bit of a pickle when your jaw locks up or find yourself with a dry mouth. Take the time to recuperate by stroking the shaft while kissing or talking dirty into his ear telling them what you have planned for them next!
Tip 6Show some skin
If there is one thing that can instantly spark up some passion, it is by revealing yourself to your partner. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for several years or have only recently begun to date a special someone, showing off what your body is like with sultry confidence is bound to turn on your partner in a heartbeat. Removing your clothes does several things at once: it provides an even greater visual aid for your partner to gaze at while they experience the pleasures of a blow job, it can remove the possibility of not getting your clothes all dirty when they orgasm and it gives you the chance to experience and possibly mix certain body parts into the fray!
Tip 7Make some noise, believe in the dirty talk
Showing how much you enjoy giving your partner pleasure by moaning, sighing and making noise during the act is very much a turn on. This just shows how much enthusiasm you are putting into giving the blowjob and showing that you are enjoying it makes it even better for them. Another way you can show how much you enjoy performing blow jobs is by doing some dirty talk. Tell them how much it turns you on, how much you enjoy their body and what you plan to do to them will get them so flustered and excited, it’ll turn that blow job into an enthralling experience he won’t forget!
Tip 8Look at him
Eye contact is immensely powerful and can really add a new dimension to the blowjob experience for your guy. When you move more of your mouth over the penis, try at this stage to catch his eye and this will help to increase the intensity. By looking at him also you will get to see the pleasure that he is experiencing which will spur you on even further. Eye contact will make your intimate play really connecting and he is bound to be turned on by your straight up confidence.
Tip 9Deep throating
Deep throating a guy as part of a blow job involves taking the penis into the mouth and back into the throat area until the soft palate at the back of the mouth is touched. Many people find it difficult to perform deep-throating, because of the natural gag reflex that occurs when the soft palate is touched. While people have different sensitivities to the reflex, some people learn to suppress it. This can be done by focusing on relaxing the gag reflex and pushing through it. This involves pushing your tongue out, going deeper than you’re used to and holding the penis there for as long as possible. If you do this, you will get more comfortable with it. The trick is to take it at your own pace and slowly move it into position. Be sure to put yourself in a position that you are in total control; you don’t want him to start thrusting deeper while you perfect the motion.
Tip 10Use your hands
Just because traditionally a blowjob involves the mouth that doesn’t mean that your hands can’t be a part of the party. Use your hands throughout the pleasure experience to caress his bum, his inner thighs, his tummy, his outer thighs; it will show you can’t get enough of his body. You can also incorporate some hand action on the penis while simultaneously blowing him. Place your hands stacked one above the other and then lick around the shaft. If you move your hands in opposite directions, anti clockwise and clockwise at the same time, you will really have a show going on. Take care that your grip is firm but not hurting him and of course, check for his reaction to see if he’s enjoying it.
Tip 11Surprise BJ
It’s a basic fact that the majority of men adore getting a blowjob and it’s unlikely they would ever turn one down. So rather than waiting for your man to ask for one or even beg for one, take the initiative and start proceedings when he least expects it.
Tip 12Limit the senses
Consider blindfolding your man while you give him the blowjob as it will heighten his senses. Use a scarf, a tie or your dressing robe belt i.e. something soft to cut off his vision in anticipation of your blowjob; maybe even don’t let him know that you are about to give him a bj, just ask him to trust you that he is going to enjoy what’s coming. Another idea would be to blindfold yourself as you perform the act as this will help to heighten your focus on all that you can feel.
Tip 13Pleasure yourself
Guys love watching you being turned on so what better time to pleasure yourself than when you are giving him head. While it might be a technique for the more experienced or advanced because it can be distracting, it’s still a nice thought all the same. You could even use a vibrator in this mix to do the work for you while you work on him. Get yourself into a comfortable position and you can work on both outcomes.
Tip 14Hit his sweet spot
The area between his testicles and his anus is called the perineum. If you massage this area during the blow job he is likely to orgasm 10 times more powerfully. To do it nicely, just cup his balls in your palm and move your index and middle finger back to his perineum and massage that area.

The Blowjob Taste Test

blowjob taste test
When your partner ejaculates into your mouth, you will instantly find out that the taste of their “come” can vary wildly. Semen is made up of proteins and amino acids, sugars, vitamins, minerals, hormones and water so the types of food that your guy has eaten will influence how it tastes. If you are finding issue with the taste of your guy’s semen, discuss it with him and let him know that you love to swallow but that the taste could do with some “refinement”. It’s likely he’ll be so delighted that you are up for swallowing that he will do whatever you want him to do to make the situation better.
Your guy can help to adjust the taste of his semen by following the tips below:
  • Drinking more water dilutes the taste and increases the volume of the ejaculation (making the feeling last and make it feel even better!)
  • Caffeine makes semen taste slightly more bitter so avoiding it before your intimate acts can make it taste less bitter.
  • Alcohol, smoking and drugs can immensely cause your semen to change taste. Not to mention they can affect the size of your erection (or cause a lack thereof) which isn’t good at all.
  • Cinnamon, pineapple juice and foods with high natural sugars will make semen taste a lot sweeter, mixing these ingredients with fruits to make smoothies can also help if you find it difficult to incorporate them into your diet. Some easy to make smoothie recipes include:
    • Blend 2 oranges, 115g (½ cup) pineapple chunks and 70g (½ cup) papaya for a sweet smoothie
    • Blend 1 peach, 100g (½ cup) strawberries and 200ml of almond milk for a lovely sugary smoothie
    • Blend 1 apple, 200ml almond milk, 1TBS honey and a sprinkle of cinnamon for a naturally delicious smoothie.
    • Blend 230g (1 cup) of pineapple chunks, 230ml (1 cup) apple juice, 300g (1 cup) banana, ½ TSP cinnamon, ½ TSP ginger, ¼ TSP nutmeg, ½ TSP vanilla extract, 2 TBSP honey, Optional: 2 TBSP wheat germ, 1 raw egg, 1 shot of wheatgrass and 2 TBSP flaxseed.
  • Drink immediately everyday and your semen will taste immensely better while also filling you up with important vitamins and nutrients!
  • Keeping fit and healthy will also help in making semen taste better as exercise flushes out toxins. Keeping fit will also make organs and muscles perform better and stamina will rocket through the roof when it comes to intimate acts in the bedroom.
In this video sex and relationship expert Jacqueline Hellyer explains a quick tip on how to overcome the ‘taste issue’ when giving a blowjob.

Blowjob Techniques

Different motions
  • Using a swirling motion with your tongue on the glans tip
  • Rubbing your tongue on the underside of the shaft
  • Try deep throat by pushing your tongue out of your mouth whilst giving head
  • Use head motions like circling/ going from side to side
  • Look at his face while performing fellatio
  • Keeping your mouth slack, use your tongue to move his penis around your mouth
  • Jerk him off as well as performing a bj to double up on sensation
blowjob techniques
Using extras to spice up the BJ
Using extras to spice up the BJ
  • Ice cubes
  • Chewing minty gum beforehand
  • Use a minty mouthwash beforehand
  • Drinking a hot beverage beforehand
  • Using a vibrating tongue bar
  • Using a butt plug and stimulate while you blow him

The Absolute Don’ts of Giving a BJ

  • If you have sharp nails, DON’T dig them into his penis or balls as it will put a very abrupt end to proceedings!
  • Don’t gag when you are faced with going down on your man, even if giving a bj isn’t your favourite activity.
  • Don’t be over confident. While it’s a turn on to have someone who knows what they’re doing, it can be too much if you try all your tricks at once so take it slow.
  • Don’t incorporate anal play without knowing if he likes it beforehand. Some guys would be taken aback if you start playing around in the anal area while giving a bj.
The Absolute Don’ts of Giving a BJ
Whatever you refer to it as, a blowjob can give some pretty intense and amazing orgasms, so they are a great activity to try in your sex life especially when you want to make your partner feel as good as you feel when they give you oral sex. The main tip is to be enthusiastic and have fun!
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